Children and Parenting

For parents going through divorce or separation, emotional and legal complications come with the added concern of how the children will be affected. Through tailored practical and legal advice, we aim to help you work together to put your children's interests first.

Divorce and separation inevitably reshape family arrangements. And when it comes to making key decisions involving your children, passions often run high. We facilitate constructive discussions around key decisions such as:

  • Who your children will live with
    From historic care arrangements to parental work responsibilities, there’s a lot to think about. We work with you to find practical living arrangements – for both the short term while other negotiations are ongoing, and the long term.
  • Who your children will spend time with
    How much time children spend with each parent is a difficult decision to make – not least because it can be difficult to picture a time beyond your divorce or separation. Expert guidance and practical and emotional support can be invaluable in helping you get there.
  • How financial support is provided for children
    From child maintenance (also known as child support) to cover your children’s everyday needs, to swimming classes, to private school tuition – coming to an agreement on who will financial provide for the children (and how much, for how long) can seem a challenging and often controversial subject. It is important always to separate financial considerations from the time a child gets to spend with each parent. We deal with this sensitively to assist both parents to understand the extent of their individual responsibility.

How we can help

With years of experience supporting parents to hold constructive discussions about the future of their family, we enable you to settle on tailored parenting plans that fit your unique circumstances. This way you can take steps to safeguard your children’s well-being today, as well as into the future.

Read our helpful guidance: Parental Responsibility Fact Sheet

Contact us to talk about how we can help you move on in life while protecting vital family relationships.

Recommended Reading

Useful Websites

The Parent Connection: The materials and features on the site have been designed to support you as parents while you work things out for yourselves

  • Child Line: A free 24 hour helpline for children and young people in danger or distress 0800 1111
  • Divorce and Children: Helps separating and divorcing couples to redefine their families and their lives
  • National Association of Child Contact Centres: Provides neutral and safe places where children of separated families can spend time and establish contact with one or both parents
  • National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children: The UK’s leading charity specializing in child protection and the prevent of cruelty to children
  • One Parent Families: Gingerbread, the National Council for One Parent Families. A registered charity working to promote the welfare and independence of one parent families
  • Parentline: Offers support to anyone parenting a child including the parents, stepparents, grandparents and foster parents
  • Understanding Childhood: Understanding Childhood provides free downloadable information leaflets for families and childcare professionals to help raise emotionally secure children.
  • Child Maintenance Service (CMS): The Child Maintenance Service or Child Support Agency (CSA) calculates and collects child maintenance The website contains a maintenance calculator and information leaflets

Testimonials

I would like to thank you for the clarification and advice you gave me – particularly in respect of the future emotional wellbeing of the children.  It certainly helped at a time when there was a lot of conflicting advice.”

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